If you’ve read the book “What to Expect When You’re Expecting” you know that every couple reacts differently. In real life, you can’t predict how becoming a parent will affect you. But, there are a couple of things that are inevitable.
Once you know you’re going to have a baby, you will experience a very harsh reality check. You suddenly realize that nothing will ever be the same again. It’s no more just the two of you – another person is about to join you. And, you’re in charge of making sure they’re happy.
You may be switching between feelings of joy and fear. For this reason, you may benefit from some insights into what might happen. Here are three life-lessons from first-time parents.
As mentioned earlier, you will experience a reality check. It’s natural for that to result in some conflict. Why? Because you’ll both understand that the good news comes with some sacrifice. You will feel this on a visceral level. Plus, the emotions can be overwhelming.
The conflict itself is not a bad thing. What matters is how you deal with it. The secret lies in having a clear understanding of what you want. You should know exactly what you’re scared of. Once you’ve dealt with your own challenges, you’ll find it easier to focus on what your partner needs from you.
Don’t Panic and Get Your Finances in Order
Having some kind of baby budget is crucial. But, you don’t have to break the bank. In the first few months, your expenses will be minimal. So, don’t panic thinking you can’t afford to have a baby.
You can convert the spare room into the nursery. Start buying a few items, such as bottles and baby clothes, every month. You should then be ready by the time the baby arrives. Most importantly, relax and stay focused. Even if you want a big family, you will figure things out as they happen.
Your Relationship Matters — A Lot!
How you treat each other will have a direct impact on your children. Don’t wait till the baby is born before dealing with important issues. It is a common misconception that a baby can somehow “fix” things. If you think about it, that’s not a fair expectation of someone who just came into the world.
But, you can confront whatever has been affecting you. Don’t be scared of strong emotions. As long as you are both caring and respectful, you will get through anything. And, your baby will be that much happier to have you as parents.
There is no escaping the fact that being a parent is a challenge. It’s the most important thing you will do in your life. Yet, bringing up a child comes with many gifts and rewards.
Take it one day at a time. If you make a mistake, that’s OK – everybody makes them. Learn your lessons and do it better next time. And, whatever you do, make sure you show your child as much love as you can. That’s the best gift you can give them.